Ah, relationships. They’re great, aren’t they? You flirted, texted, conversed and kissed your way into one of those long-term jobbers chock full of benefits. Yes, relationships are great… Until they’re not. Until it becomes an amount of work and effort that you weren’t sure you signed up for. Until you come to the realization that maybe, just maybe, the issue really is one of compatibility, the presence of unconditional love (or lack thereof) and you or your partner’s unwillingness or inability to surrender to vulnerability and selflessness. Or some super-fun combination of all three.
There are always those niggling signs that should nudge you out of the misery you face. Here are some of those red-flags you should take as a sign that you should pack your bags and leave…
1. Your feelings
According to a psychologist, the first thing you should examine is the streak of emotions you have towards your partner for the period you have been together. For instance, if you have been dating someone for several months and you are still not sure about him, your relationship is heading nowhere.
In the same vein, a counselling psychologist adds that you should gauge if there is more to your relationship than just your partner’s physical attributes that attracted you to him, and vice versa. “If there is no wood to fuel the fire based on mutual values and interests, and if there is nothing to it beyond physical attraction, call it quits.