Are you finding it hard to go an hour — or even a minute — without thinking of your crush? If you know that things aren’t working out with your crush, then thinking about them constantly is only going to bring you more pain and heartache. The good news is that if you put your mind to it, you can spend more time doing the things you love, being with the people you care about, and loving your life again. It can take time, but with enough determination, you’ll be forgetting what your crush looked like in no time at all.
Accepting Your Feelings
Before you can get over a problem, you have to acknowledge that it exists. Allow yourself to say you have a crush, and to experience all the complicated emotions that go with it.
Consider writing down a few pages about how you feel. Taking some time to express your emotional turmoil can help you feel like you’re putting it behind you. List the reasons why you developed feelings for the other person, and why it’s not going to work. Write it in a private journal, or on a password-protected word processing document. Or, write it on a few loose pieces of paper and burn them later.
State your feelings out loud. You don’t have to tell anyone else how you feel, but verbalizing your problem out loud — even if you’re the only person in the room — can help it seem real and approachable. It can be as simple as saying “I have a crush on Steve, and I hate that I feel this way.”