Dear NGTrenders, one of our very own regular visitor by the name Cynthia needs our help and advise. The letter she sent to me reads:
My name is Cynthia, a 25years old Accountancy graduate. I have a huge problem that needs urgent attention & solution.
I was in a serious relationship with my boyfriend, and we were both head over heels in love with each other, until I lost him to the cold hands of death 2 years ago.
Problem is, I can’t seem to move on. I see him in everything and everywhere I go. He was my world and I was his.
After sometime, people, including my parents advised me to move on, and after much persuasion and self resolution, I finally moved on, or so I thought.
I met this handsome, nice, loving and peaceful man. He loves me more than anything. I know he loves me but I don’t love him as much as I wish I should. I don’t value anything he does for me. It is so bad that sometimes, I mistakenly call him my dead ex’s name.
I always hurt his ego although he does not show it. I want to put a stop to all these but I just don’t know how.
I want to love him cause he’s a nice, caring & lovable guy that truly deserves to be treated better but I’m never truly happy, no matter how hard he tries.
What can I do? Should I just let him go? How do people finally let go of their lost loved ones? I have prayed and prayed. I feel so bad each time I hurt this man. How do I stop finding fault in everything he does?
Please I need your practical advices.