Marriage is a serious subject, it is one thing most women crave in relationships because most women rarely go into relationships for the fun of it, they want real commitment and with such highly raised hopes, feelings of uneasiness and disappointment begin to set in when the man in the relationship fails to propose within the expected period.
But what most women do not understand, however, is that men think differently when it comes to marriage because marriage is a long-term affair so a lot of factors are considered by the man. Men want certain qualities from the woman they want to spend the rest of their lives with, and unless you fall into that frame, you stand no chance.
A lot of hearts have been broken, and potential marital unions have failed simply because the woman didn’t possess the qualities the man wanted and it is so painful to see a couple once deemed ‘perfect’ go their separate ways after marriage, it is a common trend these days. Below are your man propose to you.
Enjoy the relationship: “There’s a ‘marriage age’ for women and when a woman fails to marry in this expected period, pressure sets in, and she begins to lose touch with the fun side of life; at this time, if she’s getting into a relationship, she’s doing it with the sole purpose of getting married, but this is not right, even though it is not bad to want to get married, however, do not make it your primary reason for getting into a relationship; go out with your man and have fun; pretend you’re not interested in marriage, and you’ll be wowed when he starts talking marriage”.
Be yourself: ‘Men can smell a fake woman from a mile away and most women are so desperate for marriage they go as far as faking qualities they do not possess, this is wrong; do this and you’re on your own; if you have attitude problems, let it show, but be willing to genuinely work on it, after all, no one is perfect and if a man truly loves you, he would seek a solution to helping you manage it but trying to cover it all up and fronting only your good sides will send the wrong signal to him, and the resulting repercussion may be unpleasant”.
Be understanding and supportive: “Understanding is one of the cores of any successful relationship, unless you really understand your man, there is no way you guys can work, know him inside out; know his weaknesses and strengths because when you know his weaknesses, you can understand the way he functions and his thought patterns; knowing his strengths gives you room to know where to support him from”.
Be hardworking: “Men hate it when a woman depends on them for everything, marriage is a serious subject and men want to be in it with a hardworking woman; a woman who can show potential, and make an effort to be financially independent, the kind of woman who can support him and the kids; the man is the breadwinner of the home, but that doesn’t mean he should do everything and there are certain things the woman should also do to support the family with and this applies to any serious relationship, men get tired of women who ask them for everything; in fact, men do not value such women”.
Don’t pressurize him: ‘Even you have been in that relationship for 3, 4, 5 years now, and he’s still yet to propose, but please, do not remind him; don’t go asking him, “honey, when are you gonna visit my parents?” or stuff like that as it will only come off as pressure, and men hate to be pressured over marriage; he has been in the relationship with you for that long and is still there, stick with him, and go about your normal life as sometimes, men do not propose when you expect them to”.