Alex Okoroji opened up on the relationship between her, ex-husband and son, when he clocked 6 years recently. While thanking her friends and fans who wished her son a happy birthday, in a broadcast message via Whatsapp, Alex had said, “Ray (her son) shares the same birthday with his father… his step sisters called, his father’s ex wife called but his father didn’t send a single birthday message for the sixth time in six years. Yet you did, you took out time from your busy schedule to acknowledge him…”
Punch asked what caused the estranged relationship between her ex and child, Alex said the actor was in the best position to answer.
“If you get an answer from him, please let me know. I’m also curious to know why. How can anyone not acknowledge the existence of his first son who is his splitting image, a child he was present at his birth, a child born into his arms, on his own birthday – a gift he had requested from God many times, with his own mouth in front of many? He even knew the child was there before I realised it. He knew the child was a boy before I did a scan,” she said.
Alex said she has a cordial relationship with her ex’s family.
“I only feel sad for him mostly because one doesn’t trade his/her right as a parent because the relationship with the former partner broke down. It’s his loss really. I’m having a great time experiencing the love and affection of this beautiful amazing child who knows how much I love him and will do anything for him. My son doesn’t lack anything. He has a grandfather (Tony Okoroji) who adores him and a family who loves him and will always be a part of his life. I’m grateful to God for that.
“I have a civil relationship with his family. I have nothing against them. I can’t say they have done anything in particular to hurt me personally. We all have to remember that blood is thicker than water. Sometimes, silence is consent. I have translated that to mean that they approve of Captan’s irresponsibility. And honestly, my focus right now is on much more important things,” she said.
On the relationship with the actor, she said:
“I’m done! Ex is ex please. Ex is for a reason. My focus is on the future, not my past. I am open to love, the right kind. I’m not available for circus. I am also open to marriage at the right time with the right person; with a man who is not intimidated by a strong ambitious woman like me, an open minded man who has goals for his life and is honest, transparent, affectionate and not afraid to be expressive; a man who is bold enough to love me in a way no man ever can or ever has, a solid thinking man, one without pun, or mind games but just the real kind of grown love.
“I have found love with myself. This is not a cliché. Believe me, there is nothing as beautiful as self-love. The moment you learn to love yourself is the very moment you realise your self-worth. It’s the moment you realise what you deserve, what you can put up with and what you should never tolerate. And that you are capable of providing for yourself everything you desire, because your happiness is only up to you. It’s in your hands and no one else. After all, you are made in God’s image and He lives in you. Why do you need someone else to feel complete? I am so in love with myself and the result of this self-love has been amazing. Now I can go ahead and give someone the best of this new version of me, when I’m ready to do just that.”