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Hi NGTrends Readers,
I’ve been deciding to post this here or not, I finally buckled down and took the plunge to write this.
Background: We’ve been together for a 1.5 years and we were about to move in together in December. We decided to take a break last week due to some arguments, but we got back together. She decided to go out, while I stayed at her place to hang out until she came back. I was bored and decided to use her laptop . But I had a feeling something was up. I decided to check her messages.
Short flashback, There was an incident a few months back where she was texting her ex and he was talking about dancing with her and how he couldn’t control himself because he wanted to take her in the back room and fu.ck her. We talked about this and I told her never to communicate with him again.
Back to the story, I see that she texted him last month and months before that to go on little dates. Asking him to come late at night and cuddle etc. etc. this is just the beginning, but I cleared some stuff up with her friend and she said that the texts are innocent and that my gf was just fucking around with that guy because she thought it was funny. Anyways she has a “best friend”, who she texts and I didn’t think much of it until I read the conversations between them. There was definitely flirting and other things like, “if you were mine I would always brag about you” and she would respond “I’m not yours yet” and he replied ” ‘yet’ “.
I confronted her about it that same night. I was so hurt and frustrated I punched the wall and started bleeding. She told me they meant nothing. That she was texting her best friend these things because she was unhappy and then I asked to look at her snapchat.
Of course, lo and behold a snap conversation between her and her “best friend”, I opened it in front of her. There was only one exchange between them that I could see because snapchat deletes the messages and pics after they are read and sent. She sent a message to him saying “I want our first time to be in big bear where my housemates won’t be”. I was devastated, I picked up as many belongings as I could from her place and left. I haven’t seen her since that day.
Should I talk to her about this? Should I give her another chance?