1. You routinely make excuses for your partner to others.
Listen carefully to what you tell friends and family members about the person you’re dating. It’s a red flag if you find yourself rationalizing his/her shortcomings: “He’s overcome a lot…She’s going through a rough patch…He didn’t have good role models.” When you’ve found the one who is right for you, the statements will sound more like this: “He is so creative! She really understands me! We have so much in common!” You know better than anyone what you dream of in a life partner. Don’t be stingy with yourself. Hold out for the very best.
2. The relationship brings you down and your significant other doesn’t inspire you to do your best.
Perhaps he/she is overly critical or too focused on his/her needs to be supportive of you. You feel you have to change yourself -– your values, goals, or dreams — for your partner to accept you. You sacrifice too much. Since your partner is unable to compromise, you morph into someone else to accommodate his or her expectations, needs, or desires