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Hi NGTrends Readers,
I’m gonna make this somewhat vague in the event she sees this so bear with me. I love my girlfriend very much. And 90 percent of the time, things between us are great. But we have a reoccurring issue of her bringing up me breaking up with her. Essentially, I broke up with her, we remained friends, and we got back together because I never really stopped loving her. During the time the we were apart she was raped in a situation she would not have been in had we still been together. Despite the fact that the breakup was some time ago, she still brings up how alone and hurt she felt every now and then.
Recently she brought up the point that if I had never broken up with her she wouldn’t have gotten raped and she feels this is the reason she can’t get over our initial break up. She says she doesn’t blame me but I can’t help but blame myself for what happened. I try to be there for her as much as possible and I realize rape isn’t something you can just forget, but the fact that it manifests itself in her occasionally guilting me for our break up hurts. And I know she’s right that the rape would not have happened if I didnt break up with her. I’m losing sleep over it and even though things are normally good, I just want to know if there’s anything i/we can do.