If you’ve been paying any attention at all, you’re keenly aware that happily married couples are an endangered species. You probably know the divorce statistics (50%) and when you go to the grocery store, you see the magazine covers highlighting the breakups of politicians, athletes, singers, and actors. Chances are, these relationships started out as many others did — blissfully happy. So, what went wrong? More importantly, how can you prevent this from happening to you?
What makes or breaks relationships doesn’t have to be a mystery. After counseling hundreds of couples, therapists and Doctors have witnessed first hand how relationships fall apart, and have been able to help many of them put the pieces back together again. This article can help de-mystify the relationship process so you’ll know how to nurture your own marriage and create the type of relationship that makes your neighbors and friends envious.
1. Invest in your marriage on a daily basis.
Like exercise, romance is cumulative: You may not have time to exercise for an hour every day, but even if you get moving 15 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes at lunch, those small efforts pay off. Experts give advice like take the stairs or park further away, building little efforts into your day to accomplish your goal. It’s the same with romance. You may not be able to escape for a long, romantic weekend very often, but you can show small amounts of appreciation and display affection daily, and those efforts really add up.
When your husband calls you at work, take two minutes to stop what you’re doing and ask about his day; show him support for something that matters to him.
Take a few minutes at the end of the evening to update each other and share the news of your day.
Watch a fun show together, like “Modern Family,” that appeals to both of you.