When a man becomes distant, sometimes the way a woman communicates her feelings to him makes him want to withdraw even more. But if you know these three steps, you can turn this into an opportunity to connect with him and make him want to come even closer to you.
It’s finally happening: you met a man you’re compatible with, you really like him, and the feeling is mutual. He’s showering you with attention, making plans to see you, making time to call you, and generally letting you know that he’s so happy to have found you.
Then something happens. Out of the blue, he pulls back from you. Maybe he doesn’t mention seeing you this weekend, or he gets off the phone a little earlier than usual. Or maybe he’s not being as affectionate. You sense a shift in the way he is with you, and it doesn’t feel good. In fact, it’s downright scary.
As a woman, our first instinct is to try to fix the situation by getting closer to him. We’ll ask him what’s wrong, call him, and start worrying. But this can actually push a man further away because he’ll feel coerced.
The real secret to making sure his distance is only temporary is to let go of your efforts to bring him close. This seems counter-intuitive and frightening, since it feels like you might lose him. But that’s entirely not the case.
Here’s how to give him the space he needs while handling your own vulnerable feelings so that he’ll naturally want to come close all by himself.
1. STAY CENTERED BY REALIZING IT’S NATURAL FOR A MAN TO PULL BACK
Drifting away is completely natural for a man, even if he’s in love with you. Falling in love can make him feel vulnerable, so he’ll try to pull back in order to not lose himself. He’ll come in and go out – like a rubber band – while he works out his feelings and digs deeper to find his ability to go the distance in a real relationship. Meanwhile, he’s also making sure he “holds on” to his sense of self, his life, and his independence.
So, the first thing to do when this happens with the man you’re with is to remind yourself that it’s completely normal. If he’s the right man for you, these periods will significantly shorten over time, even though he’ll still need his “space” every once in a while.
After 20 years of marriage, there are still moments when husband gets a little distant from his wife. The difference now is that you need to know that when he does it’s a natural process, so don’t get worried like. you also need to learn what not to do when it happens. Which brings me to the next step…