Well the basic question here is are you “A Lover Or A Mother? It is a scenario that is too familiar: a nice girl on “overdrive” trying to please her man. He comes home from work and she tries to have a conversation. He tunes her out saying, I’m tired. She makes dinner, but he eats in front of the TV so he can watch Football. She tries to look pretty; he doesn’t notice. But watch what happens when he realize the swimsuit issue got delivered; he almost hyperventilates. Diagnosis? She feels taken for granted.
Like the bum on the street with a sign that says Will work for food, your sign now reads Will work for attention. Well, no more “slimming,” girlfriend. We are under new management. Under the old management, you dealt with with his lack of attention by nagging. And if you’ll notice, it hasn’t worked. This is why all of the steps discussed in this chapter involved changes in demeanor. Wjen you nag at a man, he becomes more reclusive