Comparing your partner to other people, and the way you do it, can affect the level of stress and conflict in your relationship.
A recent study called “Comparing You = Comparing Me: Social Comparisons of the Expanded Self” found that comparing your partner to someone else can be a positive experience as long as you find a way to make peace with the comparison.
It’s natural to make comparisons. It’s one of the ways we make sense of the world to ourselves. We choose our partners because we like them more than we like other people, so it’s understandable that we would keep comparing them to others. But it’s the way we do it that matters.