Not sure about your feelings? Here’s how to know if what you are feeling is really love.Moving from “like” to “love” is one of the most important transitions a couple can make. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the most misunderstood ones. Too many couples think that love is the same as lust. This equates love with the ooey-gooey excitement and breathless anticipation that usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship. Defining love this way makes it into a feeling and the down side is that feelings come and go. If you don’t want your love to wax and wane with your emotions, you probably don’t want to define love solely as something you feel. Our culture doesn’t give us a lot of other options for a definition of true love, though. If it’s not just a feeling, then what else is it?
Lust is driven by desire. The s*x hormones play an important role in this stage. According to experts, this stage may begin immediately and can last up to two years.
Signs that you’re in
- You’re focused on the physical appearance of the object of your desire.
- There is a strong desire to have s*x, but not deep emotional conversations.
- You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
- You are lovers, but not necessarily friends.