If you’ve raised your game and are now attracting higher-quality women, it’s like spending your life eating at fast food joints and then being asked to choose an upscale steakhouse. More fundamentally, self-help takes time to be internalized. Without good inner game, it’s difficult to avoid the “I like her too much” mistakes that will drive a new girlfriend away. In this write-up, we’ll cover three ways to screw up a relationship when you’re really into your girlfriend. (So we’ll skip the stuff like taking her for granted, ignoring her, and so on.)
1. Remember: You didn’t steal her from a convent.
When a woman thinks a man is cheating, she’s right about 90% of the time. The comparable figure for men is 40%. Statistically, your suspicions are probably unfounded. And if you accuse her of cheating enough, she may figure that if she’s going to be punished for it anyway, she may as well commit the crime, too. So you’d be driving her to the very behavior you’re trying to avoid. But jealousy doesn’t have to be accusing her of cheating. It can be little things that add up, like that extra second of hesitation in your voice when she mentions a male friend, or sulking when other men pay attention to her at a party. You didn’t steal her from a convent. She’s met many men other than you, and chosen to be with you. If you act like your relationship is threatened every time she talks with a man, you’re implying that other men offer her something that you don’t, or that she is out of your league. And if you project the feeling that you don’t deserve her, eventually she’ll catch on and it will be hard for her to disagree.