1. Don’t get married for s*x.
This is what movies are made of. A lady meets a handsome, s*xy man and falls in love with him. (In movies, a woman never falls in love with any other kind of man.) Between minutes, they are in each other’s arms, k*ssing wildly, then it culminates in a s*x scene. After minutes of wild, passionate s*x, the woman is convinced that ‘he is the one.’ This scene plays out in movies but in real life, you will be foolish to get married to a man because ‘the s*x is good.’ I know that s*x plays a role in making a marriage work, but it isn’t fundamental to its success. There are a dozen other areas that you need to work on to make your marriage work. Ask any married woman how many times she has s*x with her husband. Ask her whether she thinks of s*x when she has to take care of her kids or when she and her husband are trying to settle the bills. Single lady, don’t be deluded by s*x. Some ladies think that their value is their s*xual ability or agility. You are more than s*x. You should look deep into your heart and bring value into the relationship. If it’s all about the s*x, that relationship is scheduled for failure and pain.
2. Don’t get married when you know in your heart that he’s not the one for you.
Some ladies are desperate. They jump into marriage recklessly, ignoring every warning from reason and from their hearts. They even ignore the wise counsel of older folks in their lives who can see through the lies of the man in their lives. Such arrogance only leads to pain. Such ladies reason that ‘a bird in hand is better than any other possibility out there.’ They vow not to let this one go no matter how wrong he is for them. Such ladies tolerate unimaginable abuse because they want to get married by all means necessary. You need to know what you want, marriage is not a day,a year or month thing, it is forever.