I’m sure you’ve been in a relationship with a man who started out doing all kinds of things to surprise you, like coming up with plans and showing you how much he cared…and then he stopped. And I’m also sure that once he no longer did these unexpected things for you, it made you lose “that loving feeling” that used to drive you wild with excitement to see him and be with him.
Well, the reality is that men often experience this same kind of thing with women. When a relationship starts to get more comfortable, more predictable, and has more routines in it, the kind of intense passion that a man once felt can sometimes fizzle out.
But what fizzles out isn’t just about the physical part of the relationship; it has to do with something I call “emotional attraction”.
EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION: HOW A MAN STAYS IN LOVE
Emotional attraction is the thing that gets a man to open up, to share his feelings and connect with a woman on a deeper level than he usually allows into his life. It’s what bonds a man to one woman over the long term.
When a man says that he doesn’t feel “in love” with you anymore, what he’s really saying is…
“I used to feel both physical and emotional attraction with you. But the way our relationship has been, I’m not feeling much if any of that emotional attraction now. And because of that, what I feel in my heart and my head tells me that something is ‘off’ in our relationship, and I don’t know what to do about it.”
See next page in what he needs to feel the emotions and affection again…