Putting your relationship “on hold” to focus on your kids is a very bad idea, which can strain your marriage beyond imagination. Most of us have heard of the so-called “child-centered marriage”, where a couple focuses most of their time, energy and affection on their kids and very little on each other. Of course, those of us with kids at home know that the little darlings are demanding creatures, and prioritizing our relationship is often easier said than done. Still, there are many couples who — once that nest is empty — find that they’ve neglected their relationship for so long that their partnership and passion for each other have seriously waned. That’s a sad thing.
It’s heartbreaking to see a couple who has devoted so much time and emotion to raising great kids face divorce at a time when they should want to enjoy their new found freedom. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you can put your relationship “on hold” until the kids are gone. Instead, practice these eight ways to take your marriage “off hold” right now, and keep it alive and well throughout the various stages of your life together: