JEALOUSY! This is a big relationship issue that often does (but doesn’t have to) ruin your relationship. Jealousy is the green, fire-breathing monster lying in wait to devour relationships.
Jealousy is within you. It has nothing to do with your partner. No matter what your partner does, you still feel jealous unless you track it down, dissect it, and reduce it to a speck of its former power!
Jealous people are:
That last one is really BIG! Jealous people are FEARFUL. They are afraid of being betrayed, making a mistake, not being “in the know,” left, lost, abandoned, and wrong. It’s all about them. That other poor partner has nothing to do with it at all! (Now, just in case you’re about to go off the deep end and yell at me “But, s/he cheated,” that is not about jealousy. That is about actual behavior that took place that now needs attention and relationship help.)
Jealousy isn’t about something that really happened. It’s more a fear that something could happen. It worms its way up from within you, looking suspiciously at your partner over your shoulder at all times. Jealousy is an inside job.