Lanre Dabiri aka eLDee, a musician and record label owner, is married to Dolapo. They talked about their six-year-old union in a new interview with Peter Okeugo. Exceprts:
Has marriage deprived you of the liberty to do certain things?
eLDee: Marriage only deprives you of things that weren’t good for you in the first place. I don’t feel restricted or deprived by my marriage at all. I am married to the best woman in the world.
Do you have access to each other’s phones and social media accounts?
eLDee: There is nothing to hide. She knows my passwords, I know hers too but we do not feel the need to check up on one another. We have been together for 17 years and not once have we hidden our phones from each other.
Dolapo: It’s a non-issue. We respect each other’s privacy, but there’s never been anything to hide.
Do you operate a joint bank account?
eLDee: Yes, and I believe it is important. Absolute honesty about finance is necessary in a marriage. It eliminates false expectations and builds trust.
How did you feel about the nude picture that was allegedly tweeted at your husband by his colleague?
Dolapo: Celebrities are easy targets for scandals. I know eLDee and a nude picture is not something that would get him excited. If it had been a nude microphone, perhaps I would have been worried.
What causes failure in some celebrity marriages?
eLDee: Sometimes people don’t understand the simple rules of matrimony. What a man wants the most in a relationship is to be respected, and what a woman wants the most is to be loved. If there is a swing in the balance of those two things, the relationship is unlikely to survive. Celebrities must leave that persona outside of their home. Either spouse who earns more must honour the love and respect balance if they want their relationship to survive.